Lovey Dovey

Children seem to gravitate towards security (or transitional) objects. How many of us had a favorite blanket, pacifier or a teddy bear we couldn't part with?

Are you wondering what makes a healthy attachment to a lovey? When to transition away from it? I've pulled together a list of resources to help you make the best choices for your family.


Parenting expert Dr. William Sears reassures parents that loveys are a normal and healthy phase in child development.


Happiest Baby blog (from the book, Happiest Baby on the Block) talks about the many benefits of having a lovey and what to look for when your child chooses one.
Bright Horizons, a charter school company, has some encouraging words about the use of loveys and why they're important to children.

If you'd like to understand the how and why of loveys, check out Psychology Today's article about the science behind the attachment.


If you're ready to begin working away from your child's lovey, Bundoo has practical, yet gentle advice.


And if your child goes to college with their lovey? Erin Ben-Moche of The Chicago Tribune says that's becoming more and more normal as adult children work and go to school away from home.


My own daughter has a lovey that's a doll skirt and she calls it Pants On. This leads to awkward conversations with daycare teachers and grandparents when we have to ask, "Do you have Pants On?"

Do your children have a lovey? Tell us about it in the comments!

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